Or are they? According to Wikipedia habits are routines of behaviour that are repeated regularly and tend to occur subconsciously, without one being conscious about them. Habitual behaviour often goes unnoticed in persons exhibiting it, because a person does not need to engage in self-analysis when undertaking routine tasks.
We were not born with habits; habits are simply something we learnt to do. Smokers – do you remember the first time you smoked? I am sure you did not enjoy that first taste of smoking, yet you learnt how to smoke. Nail biters, more difficult to remember the first time it was done but was it really that enjoyable to want to do it again? Or was it something that made you feel secure in a nervous situation? Or maybe gave you something to do with your hands when bored. The list of common habits could go on and on but the one thing that is similar across the board is that the owner of the habit would feel weird if they didn’t ‘do’ their habit. For example, the smoker would feel weird and not know what to do with their hands whilst standing with other smokers. The nail biter may feel more anxious in a nervous situation without biting their nails. Another thing that is quite common is for the habit to involve the hands, smoking, thumb sucking, nose picking, nail biting, hair twirling. These habits are generally thought of to be nervous habits. There are more involved habits such as tics; vocal or motor. These can be more complex and can stem from muscle tension or medical disorders so are often solved in a different way.
The reason the body feels weird when not doing the habit is because it has become a learned reaction. If you are a driver you will know that if you are in the passenger seat and the person driving the car gets a bit too close to the car in front your foot will try and push down on the imaginary brake pedal in front of you. This is a learned reaction; as is putting your knife and fork in the correct hands when you sit down to eat. Learned reactions are things that we were not born knowing how to do but become as instinctual as natural reactions such as excessive breathing whilst exercising. To try and stop learned reactions can be as weird as trying to stop a natural reaction as the subconscious mind has learnt to automatically react in this way. The conscious part of our mind is the area that controls things we are aware of, the subconscious things we are not aware of. Once a habit is formed it is being controlled by the subconscious mind. Therefore to break the habit we have to become aware of it, this is where will power comes in. Will power is great – when it works. With will power you are willing yourself to do something, therefore you need to keep reminding yourself what it is you are trying to achieve, this has its own problems. To continually remind yourself what you are trying to achieve you have to think about what it is you want to stop yourself doing. This can become a battle in your own mind as you consciously tell yourself that you do not want to bite your nails again / smoke another cigarette / suck your thumb whilst your subconscious mind keeps trying to do what it is you consciously do not want to do. When in hypnosis the subconscious mind is open. Just like when you are asleep and your subconscious mind takes over, allowing you to continue breathing and functioning whilst dreaming and resting the hypnotic state is very similar. When in hypnosis one is not asleep but just on the edge of sleep. Perfectly calm and relaxed with the subconscious wide open ready to accept any suggestions that it chooses to accept. Hypnosis can help, so that habits are not hard to break. When using hypnosis to overcome a habit the therapist will give you suggestions that break the link between your thoughts and the habit, allowing you to stop the habit for good without the need for will power.
